Frequently asked questions

A few things worth knowing before you join.

What is Our Secret Lifestyle?

A private, members-only social community for adults — built around real-world gatherings, trust and discretion.

Who is it for?

Verified adults who value privacy, consent and a respectful, curated environment.

Is it discreet?

Yes. Membership is private, payments use discreet statement descriptors, and we never store identity documents or sell your data.

How do I join?

By invitation or by applying. New members complete a profile and are verified in person at their first event.

Does it cost anything?

Creating an account is free. Individual events are prepaid and priced by their hosts.

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